The Christian Youth and the Challenges of Cybersex

Posted by: | Posted on: December 7, 2014

Job 31:1 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.” Matt 5:28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

The advent of the computer technology and internet came with several moral decadence. More so, young people had accepted this technology with a high crave and unconditional dependency. It affects their way of life and introduces them to various vices which vex the spirit of the genuinely born again ones among them. They belong to all groups in 2go, WhatsApp and Facebook. One biggest challenges of the internet is the proliferation of diverse forms of cybersex. We shall highlight the various forms of this challenge and proffer certain godly steps for freedom through Jesus Christ; they include digital dating, pornography, sexting and online masturbation.

The challenges of cybersex
This has been noted as the number one activity on the internet. Try typing “how to…” on the google search engine, you will be shocked to see that the first three results will be “how to have sex”, “how to kiss” and “how to romance”. It goes to show us that immoral sex is wittingly made uppermost to internet searchers. Youths are used for acting porn movies and a large number of young people watch these movies/clips online. Recently, Nigerian girls are involved on hardcore 5-minutes sex movies downloadable over the internet and shareable across mobile phone platforms.

Pornography is the exhibition of sexual activity in the printed word, films, or the visual arts, which is intended to stimulate erotic rather that aesthetic feelings.  Graphic images and video clips depicting oral sex, anal sex, multiple men engaged in sexual activity with a single woman are a click away because of the advancement of technology. Digital dating on the other hand is a process of creating and sustaining a sexual friendship over the internet in the guise of looking for a potential spouse. Pornography and Digital Dating go hand in hand because digital mates are merely online sexual partners who from time to time exchange sexual pictures and videos of each other. Young people in Nigeria are gradually getting into marriage plans with total strangers they met on the internet. Online dating is going on daily on the internet with specialized websites for it. In most cases, those virtual dating websites or scammers will lure innocent victims privately offline and eventually rape, kill or turn them into baby making machines for ritual purposes abroad.

We have enumerated a comprehensive and compelling statistics on the current rate of cybersex penetration in the society. The alarming rate of pornography impact on teens is indicated in a survey of nearly 29,000 college students revealing that 82% of men and 52% of women have been exposed to pornography by age 14. About 63% of the men and 18% of the women have spent some time every week online for sexual purposes. 

The gallery of some young peoples’ phones have a picture of themselves half naked. Some girls take a picture of themselves either by demand or at will and posts them across friends through Bluetooth, WhatsApp or other means of file transfers. This is a new way of arousing sexual interests and attracting potential sex partners. Sexting is sending text messages or multimedia messages with a sexual content. Online Masturbation go hand in hand with sexting and currently in Nigeria with the use of the ‘extra-cool call periods’ over the night since most night browsing centers are no longer invoke.

The effects of cybersex
It is our view that a student with these effects cannot concentrate on any serious academic work. He/she will be morally depraved and will certainly perform poorly in schools work. That is why we have low grades in NECO, WAEC and JAMB. At higher schools, we have drop-outs and mass failures in most courses. In my recent research among 500 students on why students perform poorly in schools, the table below showed the glaring answer:

Response on digital dating and pornography
Do you see nude pictures over social sites? Yes 420 (84%), No 80 (16%).
Have you ever posted a nude or partially nude picture of yourself or another person? Yes 310 (62%), No 190 (38%).
Have you ever received a sexy request over a social site or by text messages? Yes 432 (86.4%), No 68 (13.6%).
Do you have up to 100 friends (of the opposite sex) over social sites? Yes 364 (72.8%), No 136 (27.2%).
Have an online friend ever recharged your data to access the internet? Yes 400 (80%), No 100 (20%).

There are seven (7) effects of direct exposure to pornography on a child or adolescent; they are as follows: 

Lasting negative or traumatic emotional responses.
Earlier onset of first sexual intercourse, thereby increasing the risk of STDs over the lifespan.
The belief that superior sexual satisfaction is attainable without having affection for one’s partner, thereby reinforcing the commoditization of sex and the objectification of humans.
The belief that being married or having a family is unattractive is caressed.
Increased risk for developing sexual compulsions and addictive behavior.
Overestimating the prevalence of less common practices (e.g., group sex, bestiality, or sadomaso-chistic activity).
An inability to contextualize incorrect information about human sexuality as an adult brain would.

Steps to Freedom
The freedom process of any form of addiction or involvement in cybersex  will require these three elements:

John 8:36 (KJV) “If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.”

Proverbs 23:7 (KJV) “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:…” Romans 12:2 (KJV) “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”

Philippians 4:8 (KJV) “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

Finally, we conclude with advising the Christian youth to stick onto the 10 commandments for the Digital Youth as follows:

Thou shall not give thy personal information online
Thou shall not post thy private pictures and videos online
Thou shall not arrange for a physical meeting with someone you met online
Thou shall make thy parent and thy pastor a friend in a chat room
Thou shall not accept a stranger as a friend on social network
Thou shall set thy profile and they post as private 
Thou shall not reset your phone/computer or clear your browser history
If anyone harasses thee online, thou shall inform thy parent/guardian immediately 
Thou shall maintain the internet time strictly
Thou shall not beg for money from a anyone online

Celebrate your Purity!

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